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What Do You Say?
By Mona Lease
Hi, all!! A twelve year old girl sat on a park bench beside her fifteen
year old half brother at the Darke County Fair. I listened as they
spoke of the fact that their Mother had given both of them away when
they were very young - One year old and three years old - too young!
The girl has a physical defect. The boy has no "defects." They wondered
why they were not wanted. The boy told his half sister "At least
you got a reason (not to be wanted).
A young man called me just before I sat down to write this column. His
Dad has "used" off and on all of his (the Dad's) life. He is back to
using. I told the caller not to ruin his family by letting the Dad come
to live with them. It is in that vein that I write this column.
I am convinced that much of our turmoil - as a society - is because we
- as a people - quit living as a family - as a community.
I have watched a couple of Moms get custody of their grandkiddies to
"keep the family together" while the daughter goes on down the road
with another guy and more kiddies. What this shows the kiddies - I
believe - is: 1)Their Mother does not really care enough to be there
for them. 2)Dad is good enough for the child support and little else.
3)The kiddies can do these thing when they are "adults"...which
explains (in my mind) why our country is in the mess in which we find
ourselves. PS - the "enemy countries" are betting that we (USA) will
not give up our computers, our satellite tvs, our gas-hoggin' autos,
etc. and physically work together to solve anything.
If I had the woman's permission - I still would not print her name. She
told me she was allowed to do what she wanted from the age of twelve.
When her Mom died - she was alone. Her Dad was long gone. Her sisters
had had to make it on their own and now it was this woman's turn to do
what they had been doing all this time. But - she did not have the
"tools." She had to go backwards and learn them. A male I know lived a
life of hard drugs. Same story as the woman. It was after his Dad died
and he was on his own, that he had to "sink or swim." After too many
years of feeling sorry for himself, vowing to get clean and stay clean,
"using", and starting the cycle over again - he quit. Now - on a small
scale - that is workable. But - what happens if we have most of the
country doing that? What happens when these same IV drug users (or
habitual prescription drug users) vote? Seriously - in Ohio - the
"fight for the right" to legally smoke marijuana is on it's way to the
ballot. If you can not drive a car under the influence of marijuana -
legal or not - how can you vote or make any other rational decisions -
like raising kiddies? How can you possibly stick to a given set of
morals when your life is high, not high, high, not high, sleep aid and
start the cycle anew in the morning? Then add to that the fact that we
- as a people - are still trying to "keep up with the Joneses." Which
makes me bet on: If the Joneses got an outhouse, went to a tv that got
three channels and was happy - more people that you would believe would
follow suit.
With Mother's Day a scant three weeks away - this one is for you: Keep
being the Mom that demands to know where your kiddies are, with whom
they are spending any amount of time, who the other parents are, what
movies they watch, what music they like, etc. Explain to them that you
are responsible for them before the law - that they most assuredly will
have to follow rules when they leave home, Explain to them that they
will be glad you did this for them. And they will definitely be glad
you did this when you are gone and they have to live without your
physical presence. Explain to them that the people who choose to do the
drugs do not want to live in the world soberly or were not taught how
to live in the world soberly...that life will always be full of
problems.
Remember the kiddies and our service people. Take good care of the
furry and feathered ones out there. Be safe and healthy. See ya next
time. Ever Toodles!! MONA
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