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What Have We Accepted?
By Mona Lease

Hi, all!! So - for the disturbing phone calls I mentioned last week - and the added conversations I had in public places: 1)A guy told me his Father died and there was no funeral. He lowered his head and changed the subject. 2)A young man told me I am living in the '70's. It is now acceptable for an attached girl (married or not) to have male friends and do things with them while the boyfriend (or husband) is at work. It is not - however - acceptable for the girl to stay out until late at night or not come home at all. 3)Another phone caller said his fiancée had gotten beaten by some undisclosed male who was supposed to be her friend. The male friend had a girl he was supposed to have "dumped." I'll stop the examples here - the rest I have are the same.

I have perused Craigslist for the last five years. You would not believe what is advertised in the "personals" - complete with pictures! Craigslist is around the world" via the computer, cell phones, and some television applications. Disturbing does not begin to describe how I feel about all of this. After I thought for awhile - a sharper image came into my mind - and some nausea with it. I've always known that men in prison (and probably some women, too.) get as many women as they can to write to them, send them money, visit them, etc. It helps to bribe the guards, cooks, etc - and get drugs into the prison along with whatever else. I've seen pictures of inmates (set up by someone on the outside) on Craigslist. It lists all of their likes/dislikes, kind of girl they seek, everything but why they are in prison.

Regarding the case of the boyfriend and his girlfriend staying out all night with another guy: How can the new guy do that? Does he not have a job? Or is the girl's boyfriend footing the bill for this, too? I say the new guy has no job. It is apparent he has no morals. Does the new boyfriend see a meal ticket with this girl - you know - since he was supposed to have gotten rid of the other girl? I say the guy sees a meal ticket - which brought more nausea.

Regarding the girl that was beaten: The guy she was with had a "former girlfriend." Did she have a problem with being dumped? Or was she dumped at all and the guy thought he might have two meal tickets? I say the new girlfriend said or did something that said she was not "sharing" the guy and she got popped. See - me living in the "70's and this being the 2,000's made no difference. Someone did not want their "lover" with anyone else.

Since there was no funeral - the guy got no closure - no "his turn" - if you will - his turn to hear what others thought of his Dad or how his Dad had impacted their lives. And this led me to - more and more people are not having a funeral - they are passe - like families going to a restaurant for the holiday meals. This means that fewer and fewer kiddies know what it is like to go to Grandma's house with the mixture of home-cooked food, spicy pumpkin pie, and coffee aromas filling the air. And that brought me to: Is this what is at the bottom of all of the drug/family/marriage/money problems?

My generation - baby-boomers, I'm told - were taken to funerals and were taught how to pay our "last respects." We were told that some day it would be our turn to bury a loved one, prepare family holiday meals, spoil the grandkiddies, etc. But, I do not see much of that. I see people with no real idea of how to set goals, how to keep the goal in mind, how to plan little steps to get to the goal, etc. Most of the people with whom I speak do not know where they want to be in five years - mentally or physically. Most of them just believe that "the system" will take care of them. They do not even believe "the system" could ever possibly fail or that the people at the bottom who support it would ever sit down and say they are done.

And I want to take this opportunity to tell Commissioner Mike Rhoades that I am sorry. I thought he had went "soft in the head" when he told Pitsburg, Ohio's City Counsel that the Darke County Commissioner's had no dog in their fight. I thought I would apply that logic to my life to see what would happen. It is amazing what I can get done now that I am not taking my "dog" to fights that truly are not  mine.

Remember the kiddies and our service people. Take good care of the furry and feathered ones out there. Be safe and healthy. See ya next time. Ever Toodles!! MONA


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