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Fertile Gardens
By Mona Lease
Hi, all!! This one has been in my head for too long. As I was waiting
outside of WalMart for my ride, I heard as young woman tell the two
little girls with whom she was walking, that they were right - we do
not talk to strangers. The whole "stranger/danger" thing went through
my mind. Which brings me to the following:
We tell, talk, preach and restate - stranger/danger, say no to crack
(complete with the rear view picture of the man with his pants
sagging), alcohol is a drug, don't take candy/gifts from strangers,
etc.
We tell college women not to walk alone on the campus at night (The
colleges even provide escort services.), all women should not walk
alone anywhere at night, etc. We tell women not to take or go home with
men from bars, nightclubs, concerts, etc. We tell women not to waste
their life - get a good job or start a career.
I recently donated some office furniture to an organization that speaks
with young women about pregnancy, administers pregnancy tests, and
gives cribs & such to expectant Mommies. I told the woman to tell
these young girls with whom she will be speaking, that the donor of the
furniture said for the girls to keep their eyes and ears open and all
else shut. She looked at me like I had three heads and said she could
not do that. WHAT?!
As a people - as a society of supposed "free-thinkers" with a new and
improved way - I do not get it. I have read that the "needle exchange
programs" and the "free needle programs" are handing out literature
about stopping the drug use - do not even start using drugs - any
drugs. But you can't tell a girl not to have sex?? How does it come to
be that drugs, alcohol, stranger/danger, don't take gifts/candy/free
rides, don't lie, don't cheat, don't steal, pay your taxes, pick a
political party to vote, be a man and pay your child support are ok to
vehemently state, but - sex is ok?? I've seen the signs and I believe
we need a change fast.
I cite the Webber case (in Darke County) - Scott and his wife Lauren
Jones. Skipping the "I knew it was wrong/he told me to do it" -
I'll move to my point. You have two young people - kiddies really - and
a baby now deceased. It is said that the Dad was going to school. I've
not heard if he worked, also. I read in the Daily Advocate that he was
denied parole or some leave that would allow him to go to live with his
wife (Lauren) in Celina. Assuming this is true - it strengthens my
point.
See - the baby was a complicating factor. If Mr. Webber was going
to go to live with his wife upon his release - he/they still wanted to
be together. The baby was a complicating factor. And - they probably
really loved the baby. But the timing was bad. Doesn't anyone tell
these gals that babies cry, they get sick, they do not sleep when you
want/need them to sleep? I listened to a young woman tell a co-worker
that she had to miss work that day because her baby-sitter called in
sick. (See - that happens, too!). The Mommie hoped she did not get
fired over this. I've listened to other such stories from young Mommies
with babies. So - when might be a good time - an "appropriate
time" an "allowable time" - to tell these young girls to "just
say no" to sex? Sorry gals - we have the capacity to bear life -
shouldn't we be more concerned about what "seeds" we let get planted in
our garden? After all - it's our garden and we will get to take care of
what sprouts.
Remember the kiddies and our service people. Take good care of the
furry and feathered ones out there. Be safe and healthy. See ya next
time. Ever Toodles! MONA
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