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Mind, Body, Soul
A Review
By Mona Lease
Greetings, Gals!! Now is as good a time as any for a review. It should
be apparent that we women are emotionally driven. It should be evident
that some undesirable consequences have arisen as a result. Some of
these outcomes are nasty and last only a short time. Some of these
consequences have a lasting effect and have the ability to taint the
rest of our lives. They have the ability to taint how we view others -
how we view the opposite sex...that is ...men.
Our answer...one of our answers...is actually in the MBS
column..."Rose-Colored Glasses." Remember the part where the writer
says not all men will have your back...or not in every situation. She
says she gave her love...her allegiance...to a man who was not raised
to honor and respect that...or did not care to learn to do that. She
says she thought that all of this was like a card game called Match.
(There was actually a deck of cards for this game...geared to littler
kids. There were sets of characters on the cards. You turned the cards
face down...single file...on a hard surface. You turned them over...two
at a time. If you had a match...you took another turn. If you had no
match...someone else took a turn.). She said the trick was to know what
the cards were and where they were...that had been turned previously.
(Kind of like remembering how people consistently respond in situations
and whether we can deal with it on a daily basis or not?). This is
actually a pretty good analogy for life - for the dating game - for any
relationship.
If we understand our body...it might shed more light than we would
expect. OK, guys - here is where I will say: "Don't be embarrassed."
We're just women trying to understand a few things about ourselves.
If a woman has her menses for 30 years (closely accurate average) -
that is 360 cycles.
The spine is a complex network of nerves. In this nerve network is
stored absolutely everything that has happened to you. It is stored
when your body sends a request for a hormone to start a mense....every
mense. Before the mense - progesterone and estrogen levels rise in
anticipation of a pregnancy. All of this is stored somewhere in the
network of spinal nerves. If there is no pregnancy - another message is
sent that there is no egg/sperm ball of cells - the hormone levels drop
- and the uterine lining is shed. The whole cycle starts anew and
continues for some 30 years. All of this is "recorded" in the spinal
nerve network.
Being hormonally drive ...we are probably most sensitive a week or so
before the mense. I believe we become more "nesty"...that is...more
home thinking...more concerned with ourselves and our "nest"....is it
comfy...is it clean...is it pleasing to the eye, etc?
When the hormone levels drop - I believe we get less concerned with
these things. I also believe that when the hormones are higher - that's
when we are more likely to believe the "I love you's" How many of us
had the ability to "see through" the I love you line at some point
(even if the guy was Adonis himself) - and lose it at another
point? What changed when we believed it?
When menopause occurs - at whatever age - we still have our hormones.
The levels are not as high - they do not need to be as high to support
a possible pregnancy. We will not be able to bear children all of our
lives. (I heard your remarks to that. I said that, too !). We still
need the hormones to keep "all things female" - in a healthy female
state. Hormones also contribute to our immune system, emotional health,
etc.
I suggest you gals try keeping a journal. You don't have to show it to
anyone. You don't have to tell anyone you are doing it. Be honest about
your feelings through the day...your encounters, etc. After a few
months - you should be able to track...to within a few days...when your
menses were. If you are on antidepressants or other medication DO NOT
STOP TAKING THE MEDICATION. Make an allowance for it. Try to track -
with extra care - those times when the medication "just does not seem
to work." See if those times line up with what would be a mense and the
cramps, nausea, food cravings, etc. It's not all that unlikely. Your
spinal nerve network has stored some 360 such cycles.
If we know when might be a bad time to make important decisions (or
blindly believe anything said to or about us) - maybe a few things can
be avoided.
Sometimes all you need is for someone to just be there, even if they
can't solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares can
make all the difference. sun.gazing.com The
best is yet to be. MONA
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