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Mind, Body, Soul
Lead Us Not
Into Temptation
By Mona Lease
Greetings, Gals!! The following has me very concerned. I'm concerned
about how we - as women - conduct ourselves.
A woman I know has a cheating husband. He is now cheating on her - with
a girlfriend of hers....or was a girlfriend of hers. The cheating
husband knows his wife is friends with his new "bed partner." The
girlfriend knows she at least was once friends with her new "beau."
Watch how this spirals...creating pain to so many people.
They are not even trying to hide their affair. The man goes to the new
woman's house - two blocks from his Father-in-Law. The Father-in-Law
has lived in the neighborhood eighty years. Everyone knows him and his
family. Still the married man does not care. The "other woman" does not
care either.
Let's take a head count here. The cheating husband does not want a
divorce. The woman will always be the "other woman." That's one who
gets hurt - maybe deservingly. The wife is number two to get hurt. Her
Father - who lives two blocks away from the "other woman" - is number
three. There's a child of the wife's - there's number four. Say the
wife has 20 good friends who get to stand by and watch helplessly -
that's 24.
Add the same number for the cheating husband's side. Now our total is
48 - and counting. Add 50 people to each side for family (cousins,
in-laws, etc) who get to watch helplessly. Our total is now 148 people
- who are innocent and still get to feel the pain - and probably urged
(or feel they are urged) to "take sides."
Add to that number (148), however many people who hear this story but
do not know the adulterer or the accessory to adulteress. These hearers
will feel pain (and a myriad of other emotions) - maybe because they
experienced this scenario for themselves or know someone who did. And
they remember how they stood helplessly by telling the hurt party:
"He/She's not worth you crying...all to fall on deaf ears because they
"love" this person.
Now - take 148 and subtract the original two for a total of 146 people.
That's 146 people (maybe more if the original husband and wife have
unusually large families and counting in-laws) who get to listen to
sobs, cussing and crying...not to mention any grandchildren that may
have looked up to Grandpa (in this case) with trust and purity....and
now both of those attributes are tainted in the child's eyes. Double
this number to include the "other woman's" side in this equation for a
total of 292 people. Keep in mind that both the married man and the
"other woman" are at fault here.
This is a column for women - devoted to looking at ourselves. There has
always been a "battle of the sexes" - who is "supreme" - if you will.
But - how do you justify "hitting the sheets" with your friend's
husband - under any circumstances?? The woman in this story told people
she was a friend of the wife's.
Aren't we - as women - supposed to have a little more self-respect than
this? Aren't we supposed to be smarter than to put ourselves in such a
position that invites ridicule and shame..and puts another black mark
on women at large??
How can we hope for any change at all - as a people - if the kiddies
get to watch this?? How can we hope for any change whatsoever in our
society if we keep saying: "It's none of my business and keep blaming
the schools, the government, the church, the neighbors, etc??
It is just me...but: Have you noticed that every time we deny the
kiddies truth, faithfulness, fair play, honesty - those are the very
qualities we do not receive in the future?? And we rail and wonder why
we are treated in such a manner.
Think about it: We deny the kiddies truth...they grow up to lie to us
(or distort the truth)...from our governments and down to our
neighborhoods. Deny them fair-play...and they grow up to cheat. Deny
them honesty...they give us back dishonesty. Not every child will
succumb to his/her upbringing. But what percentage of them do you think
do succumb to what they've been denied?
Sometimes all you need is for someone to just be there, even if they
can't solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares can
make all the difference. sun.gazing.com
The best is yet to be! MONA
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