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Mind, Body, Soul
If You Don't
Understand Why
By Mona Lease
Greetings, Gals!! Christmas is close upon us. Remember - you can eat
anything. It's all about balance and portion-control. I had some very
positive feedback regarding last week's column. I read these with you.
I'm glad you've learned something or at least been introduced to new
ideas.
The Art Of Letting Go - Chapter 12 - "Read This If You Don't Understand
Why Someone Doesn't Like You" - Ellen Nguyen
"When someone doesn't want you, in the beginning it will be hard.
Sometimes, very hard. You will think there is something wrong with you,
something so undesirable and unlovable that definitely needs to be
fixed and changed. You will try to recall every tiny detail of what
happened, examining it like it's a case file and you're the lead
detective; just so you could pinpoint a reason why life didn't go the
way you wanted it to go. But there is never a satisfying answer because
even if the answer was given by that person, your bruised ego would
refuse to believe it anyway."
"That's how endless questions won't stop circling in your head and soon
you will start to believe you are not good enough or worse, happiness
isn't what you deserve. Once self-doubt and cruel thoughts start
creeping in, you will be forced to face all your insecurities and be
reminded of all the times you were left behind and not chosen."
"Over time you will get better. You might not ever fully forget, but
your pain will be relieved. You will come to terms with the fact that
they are not here with you and life goes on whether you want it to or
not. It doesn't mean you will stop questioning and hating yourself for
what happened."
"Be prepared because the flood of sentiments will not hit you just
once. Each time it will hurt like the first time."
"But please listen to me. This is important. What you fail to see and
need to know now to set your heart free is that you have been asking
all the wrong questions. That person doesn't want to be with you. They
are not here with you. They have made a conscious choice for their own
sake to be where they are now. It happens. Simple as that. You don't
need to have the reasons why."
"The truth is, when someone doesn't want you, no reason matters. No
amount of fixing could change that. There isn't anything that needs to
be fixed; nothing was missing or wrong in the first place. So if you
ever feel the need to redeem or validate yourself after being rejected,
please don't because no one can take anything away from you by not
wanting to be with you and you aren't born to prove yourself to
anyone."
"If you look back at all the times you said no to the people who want
you but for some reason are not quite right, you will be able to make
sense of your situation and stop blaming yourself so much. You will
find it easier to accept that not everyone chooses you and it's ok
because you love and respect yourself enough to let go of the past and
keep going."
"If you don't feel whole by yourself, if you believe you need to be
filled, if you haven't quite known who you are and learned to love
yourself yet, having someone's interest is never the solution."
"You have the power to take yourself to a place of peace and
acceptance. You have the choice to be kinder to yourself each day. You
are capable of making decisions that add positivity to your life and
shape you into a better person."
"Sometimes all you need is for someone to just be there, even if they
can't solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares can
make all the difference." - sun.gazing.com
The best is yet to be!! MONA
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